tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10424035.post1227588859577005120..comments2023-09-11T08:58:24.710-06:00Comments on Reach Upward: Prom SkanksScott Hinrichshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11831447472339880148noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10424035.post-82899808033468820062011-04-09T13:02:45.783-06:002011-04-09T13:02:45.783-06:00Here's a fun story. Maybe it's apocryphal...Here's a fun story. Maybe it's apocryphal, but it was related to me by a general authority. You know how second-hand stories can introduce inaccuracies, so take it for what it's worth.<br /><br />A few years ago, President Hinckley and his wife were dining at a nicer restaurant in Salt Lake along with a couple of other general authorities and their spouses. A group of teenage prom-goers were dining at the same place when they noticed the prophet and approached the general authorities' table.<br /><br />The prophet kindly greeted the teens and gave them a few brief words of counsel. Some wanted to take photos with the prophet, but President Hinckley's personal secretary took a que from prophet and gently advised the teens that it wouldn't be proper to take photos of or with the prophet in that setting. The teens understood and returned to their seats.<br /><br />One of the other general authorities present said that the main reason the prophet didn't want his picture taken with members of the group was that most of the young women were dressed immodestly. The photos would quickly have hit the Internet, and you can guess where that would have gone.<br /><br />If we are dressed in a way that embarrasses the prophet, we are likely doing something wrong.Scott Hinrichshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11831447472339880148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10424035.post-9536479794115085292011-04-09T12:40:26.956-06:002011-04-09T12:40:26.956-06:00Your post is well put. We have also had son's...Your post is well put. We have also had son's (& their friends) who did not have a desire to go to the Prom. One of our sons was asked to go, so he went. However, when his LDS date arrived, we all were trying to avert our eyes. He said he was uncomfortable the entire evening.<br /><br />In regard to the 'dresses', we need to be self-reliant and learn to alter or sew. I realize this is old fashioned, and I even was in the audience when President Hinkley said he wished that all the YW would learn how to sew. I was shocked by the laughter in the crowd at the conference center.<br /><br />As parents, we can decide how our hard earned dollars are spent. I have often said to my children when they wanted things that were not in harmony with our values that they could buy it themselves, but that we do not have funds for that. I cannot think of one time that they parted with their monies to purchase the questionable idea.<br /><br />Teens can graduate and have a good life even without going to the Prom. I sympathize with your wife as I have tried to encourage my kids to do things. However, letting your son exercise his agency sounds like it proved to be best for him in this situation. Best WishesThe Little Red Henhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06010414411720188292noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10424035.post-35921739964764538152011-04-04T06:39:39.593-06:002011-04-04T06:39:39.593-06:00Kristine, I'm puzzled by your bristling. Care ...Kristine, I'm puzzled by your bristling. Care to elaborate? <br /><br />I don't believe that you can judge a parent by the choices their children make. But I think that it is fair to point out trends and wonder how we could parent differently to achieve different ends.Bradley Rosshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06030210881782328907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10424035.post-89162848246081981112011-03-22T13:19:42.070-06:002011-03-22T13:19:42.070-06:00This is such a worldwide issue. Here in the UK our...This is such a worldwide issue. Here in the UK our kids our out numbered so much it is easy for them to fall foul of peer pressure. My daughter didn't want to go to prom, she has one other Mormon girl in her school yea who unfortunately chose to wear a dress that fit the worlds standards. We looked every where for suitable clothing and in the end found a nice dress that she wore a top under and a cardigan over. <br />The same issue is prevalent on Facebook. My wife is the Stake Young Womens President and has most of her girls as Facebook friends. She often sighs as she sees pictures many of them post. The challenge is to get these kids to understand that Strength of Youth is to be lived not just read. I don't think Facebook makes them act as differently, its just she gets to see a window on their daily life she doesn't through seeing them at church activities. <br /><br />John<br />Fellow Mormon Blogger<br /><a href="http://rjrdaydreamer.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">RJRDaydreamer</a>John Tealhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09873356271475934162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10424035.post-45738596800195624242011-03-22T07:12:27.930-06:002011-03-22T07:12:27.930-06:00"Since I haven't had a teenage daughter y..."Since I haven't had a teenage daughter yet, I am hardly one to sit in judgment of how others parent their daughters"<br /><br />Right. So don't.Kristinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10801975801367100964noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10424035.post-62868708788174528122011-03-22T00:51:07.084-06:002011-03-22T00:51:07.084-06:00Great post ! I´d aggree with the mother of four da...Great post ! I´d aggree with the mother of four daughters in your congregation: It´s a question of taking care of the matter/subject and you will quite find girls being wonderfully dressed without revealing too much. <br /><br />Greetings from Cologne/Germany<br />ReginaReginahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06451866407494658274noreply@blogger.com